INTJ


I’ll be linking up with Jenni this month for her Blogtember series. Today’s prompt: Take this short personality test and respond to your results.

I’ve taken this quiz a few times, but the outcome never changes.

  • You have distinctive preference of Introversion over Extraversion (67%)
  • You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%)
  • You have marginal or no preference of Thinking over Feeling (1%)
  • You have strong preference of Judging over Perceiving (78%)

First descriptor: To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of “definiteness”, of self-confidence. Maybe someone who’s not an INTJ would find this flattering, but I think it makes me sound like cocky, arrogant b$*#@%. I was blessed with a family that loved me without question, and so I would agree that I have a higher than average self-confidence. That said, I am “definite” about pretty much nothing. I feel like I live in areas of gray. While the description goes on to discuss that INTJ’s may be an expert in a lot of areas, I can assure I am an expert of none (except maybe eating ice cream). I am definitely very aware of, especially in my work life, what I don’t know and what I can’t do. 

Second descriptor: INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. As an adult, perfectionist I am not. As a child, most definitely. I was as type-A as they come. A tightly wound mess of anxiety. But somewhere along the way, I learned that the world didn’t end if I wasn’t perfect. It just kept spinning. The second part is interesting too because while I am certainly a life-long learner (e.g. I love learning new things. All. The. Time.), I am an expert in nothing.

A third descriptor: INTJs are known as the “Systems Builders”…INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be “slacking,” including superiors, will lose their respect — and will generally be made aware of this. This was is exceptionally true. I’m not perfect, nor do I expect anyone else to be. But I do expect everyone to contribute effort to the project. And I am terrible at hiding my annoyance with people. I try to be tactful in my constructive criticisms, but I’ve certainly still got a lot to learn.

Descriptor 4: Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ’s Achilles heel. This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Out of everything, this describes me the most accurately. I am terrible a small talk. In fact, I once got a review from a supervisor that told me I needed to learn how to “shoot the shit” if I was ever going to have a successful career. I hated dating (e.g. flirtation and small talk). Hated it so much, I never really did it. When I knew what (or who) I wanted, I went after it. I didn’t want to play games. If I had feelings for someone, I told them (hello, confidence). If they had feelings for me too, great. If not, I would try to get my feelings to move on. I am also very private, which is part of the reason I started this blog. To be more open– to opportunities, to people, to life.

Basically, when I read the description of my personality, I would hate to be friends with me. Maybe ESFP’s feel that way about themselves too? The test definitely hits some nails on the head (my self-confidence and lack of patience). That said, I think I’m a nice person– and far more tolerant of people of ALL types than this describes me to be. I’m also not as “sure” of myself or life as this test alludes to me being. I’m not an expert in anything, and I’m not in a matter-of-fact profession. I very much live and work in gray areas, where compassion and empathy and feelings come into play more often than practicality. As much as I often dread this outcome and description of myself, I am proud of the fact that I am strong, and confident, and level-headed.

So, how bout it…would you be my friend?DSC_0234

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